Lately i've been hearing "love doesnt exist" "niggas aint sh*t" and so on. I cant help but hit some of yall who've been hurt with the simple truth. LOVE does not have the same meaning for both sex. Sounds like malarky (lol) to ya but it is true.
Men idea of love is simply respect. Men have Egos, its all about being a better men then every other men she's had. Women its all about True love and its deep down emotions. If you still cant grasp what im saying i got u. Let me elaborate.
When a men reach love, yes he have emotions included but thats not all. He is sure that you are HIS and nothing will come between yall. He feels that he is in the safe zone with u. What happens if you cheat? "Lordy Lordy Lordy" Thats when santa new address becomes hell. When a female cheat on a guy, we take it as ultimate disrespect...its not much about the act, its about weakening their ego..Letting another dude take his throne. Still think its BS? Let me Just Give you few Examples. --->
SEX: Men doesnt have sex mainly for pleasure. Nutting is not as exciting as some claim it is. As men our goal during sex is to BEAT right and last real long. RIGHT? If a men cant hit it right, or have a small penis or so females drop jokes about them. Which kill their Ego as a MEN.
BREAKUPS: When you break up with a guy, Most act like they dont care right? Yes, even if they are begging u to comeback, they dont do it openly. They never act like they want u back by their Dudes. They complain for attention and so on. SOUNDS LIKE AN EGO RIGHT?
COMMUNICATION: Its mainly true that most MEN treat their mate different when they are around other men. They dont act like their in love if they are...its just too punkish...They dont say i love u. and so on. GOTTA KEEP THE MAN FIGURE. They also wanna be the leader of the relationship most of the time. Its hard to find a balanced relationship. The guy always the boss, daddy, that nigga and so on. Although most women claim its far from that but at most time it is.
NOW THINK ABOUT IT (summary)
I am not saying that Men dont fall in love; Im saying that their idea of love is not what females consider love. Yes both male n females idea of love have numerous similar characteristic but its not the same. For the male its all about the EGO/RESPECT. Thats why we make jokes about sexing each others chick, thats why we brag about how good we sex females and brag about having big penis, thats why we get deeply hurt and forgive less, thats why we sex more females when one hurt us to show that we can have better. and so on. ITS ALL ABOUT BEING THE BEST AT OUR JOB. BEING THE BEST MAN FOR THE FEMALE....SO IF ANYTHING MAKES US FEEL LIKE WE NOT DOING IT WELL. IT KILLS US.......THATS WHY SO MANY DONT COME BACK AFTER BREAK UPS, AFTER FEMALES CHEAT AND SO ON.
---NOT SAYING THAT ALL MEN IDEA OF LOVE IS RESPECT..JUST SAYING MOST OPERATE LIKE THIS THATS WHY SO MANY HURT FEMALES, SINGLE MOMS ETC. ---
I WANT TO HEAR YA THOUGHTS...TELL ME IF THIS SOUNDS VALID?
i likes it made me think about my past and realize bout some guys who i was with... its tru tho
i get you, it makes A LOT of sense..but you said they want to be OUR number 1, why cant we be theirs??..why they need to cheat and not feel bad about it??how you think that work?..i know how, b/c niggas is backwards..yall a difficult species i know how to wheel yall in..but i always gotta throw yall back b/c yall gotta cheat..idk what we gotta do to stop yall from doin that??
wow. dis is really true. i aqree. wow. it really made me think about da relationships i be in.
omggg so true !! but men dont always have to have sex its not important women find that unattractive . women like men that know their limits and know sex isnt life.
I never looked at it from that point of view til I read this blog. Makes perfect sense, but I also have to agree with amandazbzz comment. Men do cheat a WHOLE LOT, even though they have a great woman, its never enough. I have been cheated on before and I loved him very much, but anyways, good blog!
i mean i will agree if we were all in high school. thats young guy talk..real grown men express their feelings. they either work it out or let it go. they could care less about what their BOYS think if love her the world knows. i mean thats just my experience i have a grown ass man
LOL, I totally agree, you should write about Justin Bieber and all the attention he gets. He's 14, he don't "love" a girl -__-
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you all are idiots.
I totally agree on this.
And even though most females talk like well they cheat on us so its fine to cheat on them. Well me myself, I fee why cheat on them just to pay them back like many females do. Your just showing them you can get as low as them. When you need to show them truely how much it hurt you. No im not saying forgive them. Seriously, though whats the point in being as low as that? Everyone makes mistakes it just happens =]
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its @moriiyahsmommy and i completely see where you r coming from.. when i ponder on past relationships with hindsight i see all the signs of men loving with their egos.. i noticed all throughout your blog, you say "im not saying ALL men, just most" which kind of sounds like some men out there break the mold- some r differnt.. i wna know if you've mastered the art of being able2tell between the2 b4becoming too deeply committed???
i've dated men that were all sunshine n rainbows in the beginning.. i've been propsed2in probably 90% of the relationships (and even relations) i've been in... but it seems as if the minute i decide2commit, be it after only a few weeks or even months down the line, a nga does a 180 on me...??? if their masking their true colors, and being everything you want them2b and loving precisely how u ought a man2love, how can u tell that they're faking b4u get2deep???
I agree, but I feel like at some point your ego shouldn't be an issue. It all comes down to what's more important, and if your ego is then it isn't love. In relationships, you make sacrifices. Neither sexes can really grasp that idea; which clarifies that they're not ready for commitment. I mean hell, why be involved in something if you're not going to try and already come in hardheaded? People get the wrong idea of what love and a relationship really means. A woman has an ego too, which is why both sexes clash. A woman feels like she should be treated how SHE feels, and not upon how she acts herself. I would type more but then I'd have my own blog on your shit lol. Great post though!
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I heard on a tv show: you can't decide how people love you but you can decide how you interpret the love. i like this and its nice to have insight on the other side of things. i loved and got hurt. i lashed out then i apologized and said i will always be here and that is a word i will hold true too. there are so many sources of love if you lose one turn to the others to help you through =)
Women never realise their impact on a man- I seriously blv a woman can mosta the tme make a man stay or leave..
What a man needs is support and esp from the woman he loves. If she puts him down, it kills him. Men are more sensitive that we think and need more than women do really. But then its a give n take situation and a long complicated topic....
My thoughts :)